Changes that Heal, Henry Cloud
This is a helpful overview of the impact of abuse on emotional maturity. There is also an accompanying workbook. Note: this tends to overemphasize self-protection over developing a positive love life style.
Destructive Relationships: A Guide to Changing the Unhealthy Relationships in Your Life, Jill Murray
This is pitched more toward women in destructive relationships.
The Body Keeps the Score, VanderKolk
This is a look at the neuroanatomical & physiological outcomes of abuse and their impact on future behavior. The author is pragmatic and some of the treatments lack an explanatory underpinning.