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Join the 2017 Xenos Summer Institute Prayer Group

You can have an important job from the comfort of your home. That sounds too good to be true, but it is! We need prayer warriors for the Xenos Summer Institute.

Kim Van Keuls, External Relations Director remarks, “Every year we see God come through in jaw-dropping ways. I’ve been involved with XSI for about 10 years. The one thing we can count on is that things do not go perfectly or according to plan. What I hope is that our team would be quick to seek God in our ‘moment of need’ because no one has a more invested interest in using this event to equip people for ministry than God.“

Advice on Building Friendships, Part 2

We heard advice from several Xenos Biblical counselors last week on how to build friendships.

Friendships are vital to our fellowship as we seek to live out an Acts 2:42 lifestyle. 

Veteran counselor Bev DeLashmutt says, “Those who go out to find a friend, often do not find one. Those who go out to be a friend, find many.” She suggests reviewing the “one another” commands and being committed to practicing them with all the people in your life, whether they are friends or not, or whether you like them or not. Loving God’s Way by Gary DeLashmutt is a great book about applying the one another passages in community.

Counselors Offer Advice on Building Friendships

At the heart of Xenos Christian Fellowship are home churches, where people gather and really get to know one another. But it’s not always easy to form friendships. We asked the Xenos Biblical counselors for their advice.

“Learn to be a good listener – people will think you’re a great conversationalist if you work on active listening. Remember what they said to you and follow up on it later,” suggests Chris Risley.

When it comes to improving listening skills, Connie Rue suggests keeping your mouth closed, make eye contact with the person speaking and focus on what they are saying. Asking clarifying questions can also help.

Xenos sphere leader and counselor Ben Foust suggests that you try seeing how far you can get in a conversation just asking questions rather than sharing your own thoughts and opinions.

Xenos Counselors' Recap Favorite Parenting Advice


We asked Xenos’ Biblical Counselors what was the best parenting advice they have ever heard. Perhaps some of these ideas will intrigue you or spark a conversation in your family.

Chris Risley advocates for getting a regular date with each of your kids. “When they’re little, you may be going to McDonald’s so they can get chicken nuggets, but it’s worth it. Occasionally, they’ll give you a golden insight into what they’re thinking about.”  She also remembers the advice, “Turn off the TV.”

New Book from Gary on Colossians

"I have long loved Colossians as a concise yet profound summary of Paul's message about Jesus and the Christian life. It introduces spiritual seekers to what C.S. Lewis called "mere Christianity." It grounds younger Christians in their faith as they become familiar with its contents. Christian workers will derive lasting nourishment and motivation by memorizing and meditating on specific passages," Gary DeLashmutt states in his introduction to his new book on Colossians.

If you love Gary's teaching outlines that give you such a depth of understanding on the passage that he's covering, you will enjoy his new book, Colossians: Christ Over All; Christ in You.

New Oasis Procedures Coming for Classes Grades K - 5

Oasis will be changing their procedures for elementary and TNT classrooms over the next three weeks. Parents will be given a tag when they drop off their child in classrooms for Kindergarten - 5th grade. They will need this tag to pick up the child at the end of CT. This enables us to ensure the right child goes to the right adult.

We understand this may be an inconvenience for some parents, but we believe the safety of the kids is worth it. Please convey this information to other parents.

If you're dropping off a child for a friend, you'll want to pick up the tag and give that tag to your friend for pick up. If you're picking up a child for a friend, make sure you secure the tag from your friend before going to the child's classroom.

Book Review: Seeking Allah, Finding Jesus

by Pat Reeder, Equipping Division Coordinator

Philippians 3:4b-7––If someone else thinks they have reasons to put confidence in the flesh, I have more: circumcised on the eighth day, of the people of Israel, of the tribe of Benjamin, a Hebrew of Hebrews; in regard to the law, a Pharisee; as for zeal, persecuting the church; as for righteousness based on the law, faultless. But whatever were gains to me I now consider loss for the sake of Christ.

Seeking Allah, Finding Jesus by Nabeel Qureshi was the most compelling book I’ve read in years. For my job, I read a lot books, most of them in tandem, picking them up and putting them down, whittling chapters away over months. Not so here: I could not put down Qureshi’s very personal, gripping tale of coming to faith in Christ.  

Approaching a book like this, a Christian believer might think as follows: Islam is a merciless religion of hate and violence. Qureshi surely had a miserable childhood under the draconian rule of his parents and imams. He bore this heavy burden joylessly but dutifully, because it was all he knew. No doubt, upon discovering the good news of freedom in Christ, he tossed off Mohammed’s heavy shackles in exchange for the easy yoke of faith in Christ.

Qureshi’s story is far more fascinating than this one-dimensional portrait. Qureshi is the Muslim Saul of Tarsus: he had a joyful childhood; he had a loving family; he was part of a warm Muslim community; he loved Islam and the Quran; he was a top student, receiving his MD; he was morally upright by almost any standard; and his family was financially comfortable. Like Saul, when he surrendered to Christ, he had much to lose and little to gain. But also like Saul, he couldn’t deny the truth of the risen Jesus Christ. SAFJ chronicles Qureshi’s journey from his happy Muslim childhood up to just past his conversion.

Book Recommendations from Gary DeLashmutt

Gary DeLashmutt, lead pastor and elder at Xenos, recently suggested some great reads.

A Passion for God: The Spiritual Journey of A. W. Tozer, by Lyle Dorsett - This is an even-appraisal of Tozer's Christian life and ministry. Dorsett critiques aspects of Tozer's family life, but acknowledges his prophetic impact on the church.  Like us, Tozer was "the treasure in an earthen vessel."

Delighting in the Trinity: An Introduction to the Christian Faith, by Michael Reeves & Experiencing the Trinity, by Darell W. Johnson - Both of these theologically orthodox authors are trying to show that the Trinity is not just a philosophical problem to solve, but also at the heart of a vital spiritual life.

Book Recommendations from the Elders

This week, we hear from elder Jody Kear about several books he recommends.

True Spirituality by Francis Schaeffer
This is a great old standard to read out loud with youngish Christians, not new believers. Since the book is based on lectures, it works well read aloud. Schaeffer has a great knack for taking a spiritual truth that is difficult to comprehend and making it seem way more concrete. Truths like our death and resurrection with Christ and the reality of the power of the indwelling Spirit become way more real. It's been a joy re-reading this.