Marriage

  • General
    • The Meaning of Marriage, Tim & Kathy Keller
    • What Did You Expect, Paul Tripp
    • Marriage Builder, Larry Crab
      Crabb discusses why it is important to have unity in marriage and that expectations, manipulation and demands destroys “oneness.” He talks about how confidence in God’s Grace, Commitment, and Acceptance are the building blocks of marriage.
    • How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong, Leslie Vernick
    • When Sinners Say, “I Do”, Dave Harvey
      This is a very honest look at marriage between two fallen people and the critical importance of having a grace centered perspective.
    • Towards a Growing Marriage, Gary Chapman
      Section One discusses the pitfalls of dating, the goal of marriage, and choosing a mate. Section two talks about different relational and spiritual attitudes in marriage. The book discusses expectations, communication, roles, self-righteousness, sex, in-laws and finances.” Very practical.
    • Intimate Allies, Dan Allender and Tremper Longman
      This well-crafted book honestly probes the state of marriage today. Through case studies and examination of God’s Word, the authors seek answers to questions about roles within marriage, intimacy of body and soul, working together, and more.
    • First Years of Forever, Ed Wheat
      This book offers crucial counsel—rarely found elsewhere—on the essentials of love, sex, communication, and conflict resolution.
    • Marriage Masterpiece, Al Janssen
      This book discusses the role of marriage and its lifetime commitment in a culture where divorce is common. Focus on the Family's marriage book of the year looks at God's intent for marriage, offers scriptural answers as to why it's still relevant, and relates it to couples today.”
    • Questions Couples Ask, Parrott & Parrot
      This book covers a range of topics including communication, conflict, intimacy, in-laws, sex, careers, emotions, and many others.
  • Communication
    • The Relationship Cure, John Gottman
      A very helpful book on communication
    • Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman
      A useful perspective on how to communicate love in a way that fits the person you are trying to love. One caveat: some readers may tend to treat these ideas as a sort of transaction, “I will communicate love in your love language but that means you must do the same back to me.” This approach will fail.
    • Love-life for Every Married Couple, Ed Wheat
      This book reveals the secrets to a thrilling lifetime love relationship based on the “BEST” principle—Blessing, Edifying, Sharing, and Touching. You’ll discover easy, practical directions for creating a nurturing emotional relationship, satisfying sexual intimacy, and spiritual unity. You’ll learn how to rekindle your love when the flames have cooled and discover ways to make a good marriage even better.”
  • Difficulties in and challenges to marriages
    • The Emotionally Destructive Marriage, Leslie Vernick
    • The Snare: Understanding Emotional and Sexual Entanglments, Lois Mowday Rabey
      Most affairs don’t just happen, they begin with a period of uncoupling from your spouse followed by emotional entanglements with someone else. A secular companion book might be Uncoupling by Diane Vaughan.
    • Uncoupling, Diane Vaughan
      Vaughan's examination of the breakup of relationships from a sociological and psychological perspective identifies the key steps in uncoupling from both partners' points of view. This schema is supported by 103 in-depth interviews and solid documentation from the professional literature. This work is also helpful to those in the early stages of uncoupling to identify what is happening, enabling them to take the steps necessary to avoid the ultimate breakdown.” The emotional entanglement that, The Snare addresses generally happens after the uncoupling that Vaughan speaks to.
    • When Two Walk Together, Richard & Mary Strauss
      This is a book about a couple that almost gave up on their marriage. As one of them changed, the other considered their part in the unhappiness. The book ends with a chapter written by their four sons as they observed their parents’ struggle. A good book if only one of a couple wants to work on the marriage.
    • Your Marriage and the Internet, Thomas Whiteman, Ph.D. and Randy Petersen
      This book talks about how a marriage can be torn apart by porn and how some men succumb to the ease and privacy of internet porn. Women neglect their families by “socializing” in chat rooms. Hours drift away surfing for information, research, or for hobbies.
    • Unclaimed Baggage, Don Frank & Jan Frank
      Unclaimed Baggage gives you a unique look at how our family and relationship history shapes marriage, and provides solid advice for dealing with the past with specific strategies for creating a strong, loving marriage that will last.
    • Secret Choices, Ed Wheat
      This book powerfully demonstrates how unconscious choices and attitudes affect your love life. You’ll learn to understand your feelings of love, learn principles of faithfulness and forgiveness discover the secrets of sexual fulfillment, and recognize the earliest signs of trouble.”
    • Love Busters, Willard Harley, Jr.
      This book tells how angry outbursts, disrespectful judgments, annoying behavior, selfish demands, and dishonesty can cause harm in romantic relationships. There are also chapters on resolving conflict over friends and relatives, career choices, financial planning, children, and sex.”
  • Men in marriage
    • The Silence of Adam, Larry Crabb
      Many of Crabb’s books have great insights which are reiterated and reiterated again. The insight here is important but based on a questionable interpretation of the Genesis account of the fall of mankind – that Adam was present and silent when Eve was being tempted.
    • Men & Women: Enjoying the Difference, Larry Crabb
      Men and women share a deadly problem that kills good relating. The problem is this: we are committed, first of all, to ourselves.” Numerous examples are given on how we can turn away from ourselves and toward each other.
    • Point Man, Steve Farrar
      Steve Farrar insists that if we are to win this war, we need men who know how to effectively lead their homes. Point Man is designed to provide a biblical role model for baby-boomer dads determined to keep their families off the casualty list.”
    • Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, Aubrey Mulphurs
      This small book talks about how the choice made by Adam and Eve has caused damage to marriage, then goes on to explain the redemptive role of men and women in marriage.
    • His Needs/Her Needs, Willard Harley
      Excellent book on how to meet your spouse’s needs. The author also cautions of the possible consequences if needs go unmet for significant periods of time. This book gives good insight into the mindset of the opposite sex.
      Note: stressed couples tend to focus on their own needs and their spouses failure to live up to those expectations. If your relationship is stressed this book could become a body of evidence against one another instead of a useful way to serve one another.
    • Husbands Who Won't Lead and Wives Who Won't Follow, James Walker
      This book deals with different types of husbands (passive, withdrawn, workaholic, escapist) and different kinds of wives (doormat with lace, woman at war, manipulating, and the working wife. It is helpful for those that have a hard time recognizing roles and submission.
    • Man in the Mirror, Patrick Morley
      A practical book on 24 different problems men face in identity, relationships, money, time, temperament, integrity and concluding with spiritual disciplines that bring about change.”
  • Women in marriage
    • Men & Women: Enjoying the Difference, Larry Crabb
      “Men and women share a deadly problem that kills good relating. The problem is this: we are committed, first of all, to ourselves.” Numerous examples are given on how we can turn away from ourselves and toward each other.
    • Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, Aubrey Mulphurs
      This small book talks about how the choice made by Adam and Eve has caused damage to marriage, then goes on to explain the redemptive role of men and women in marriage.
    • His Needs/Her Needs, Willard Harley
      Excellent book on how to meet your spouse’s needs. The author also cautions of the possible consequences if needs go unmet for significant periods of time. This book gives good insight into the mindset of the opposite sex.
      Note: stressed couples tend to focus on their own needs and their spouses failure to live up to those expectations. If your relationship is stressed this book could become a body of evidence against one another instead of a useful way to serve one another.
    • How to Get Your Husband to Talk to You, Nancy Cobb & Connie Grigsby
      Men and women communicate differently and, all-too-often, not at all! This book is a sort of “linguistics” school that will teach you to speak your husband’s language.
    • Husbands Who Won't Lead and Wives Who Won't Follow, James Walker
      This book deals with different types of husbands (passive, withdrawn, workaholic, escapist) and different kinds of wives (doormat with lace, woman at war, manipulating, and the working wife. It is helpful for those that have a hard time recognizing roles and submission.