Marriage

Peers

• Do they communicate openly, honestly?
• Are they satisfied with their sexual relationships?
• Is there resolution of past family issues?
• Do they value each other's opinions? Temperment? Gifting?
• Do they actively encourage/affirm each other?
• Do they pary together?
• Do they bear with each other's annoying behaviors?
• Are there control issues? Anger outbursts?
• Do they agree on time management?
• Do they agree on how money is used?
• Do either have inreasonable expectations?
• What is their relationship with mom? Dad?
• What is their relationships with the in-laws?
• Do they agree on how to raise children?
• Do they enjoy time together?

• Do they have good peer relationships? Short-term? Long-term?
• Do they have any unresolved relational issues?
• Is there codependency?
• Is there man-pleasing?

Character

Ministry

• Have they been tested in trials and temptations?
• How have they handled suffering, rejection, disappointment?
• Do they have a value and appreciation for conflict? Do they know how to resolve differences? Do they avoid problems, or are they argumentative? Defensive? Insensitive? Withdrawn?
• Are they guided by Christian values, or does the world influence them more with regard to money, recereation, etc.?
• Do they use maipulation or coercion to win theur way?
• Do they have an attitude of contentment and gratitude?

• Do they have an understanding of Romans 6,7,8?
• Do they understand the difference between the law of sin, walking in the flesh, and walking in the Spirit?
• Are they able to obey authority?
• Have they disciplined others? What is their track record?

• Where are they in the continuum of sanctification, i.e...

self-focused vs. other-centered

selfish lifestyle vs. loving servant

temporal view vs. eternal perspective

• What has been their active ministry in general?
• How do they view their work?
• Have they experienced failure in ministry?
• Do they recognize problems?
• Can they work as a team with others?
• Do they communicate their discernment?
• DO they hold back because of any fear?
• Do they practice their gifting in the home group and/or other ministry environment?